6 Questions to Help Find Your WHY

6 Questions to Help Find Your WHY

Find your WHY

Do you spend ages making sure your goals are SMART and worded perfectly, just to give up on them a week or three later? Do you wonder why your goals never seem to be achieved, when others seem to manage it flawlessly?

Then you need to find your WHY.

So many people fail to keep pursuing their goals because they failed to get leverage on themselves. If you don’t have a powerful reason for achieving your goals, there’s a good chance you won’t.

This post then, will hopefully guide you in the search to find your WHY.

 

Motivation increases when you find your WHY

When you decide to reach for a goal, there are many ways you can get yourself motivated. All of them will work to a greater, or lesser degree.

Find your WHYHowever, by far the most important factor in achieving your goals is to fully understand your ‘why?‘ No matter how grand your dream, the most motivating approach to ensure success, is to completely understand WHY you want to achieve it.

Initially, everyone believes they know why they’re doing something. If you ask someone who’s recently decided to stop smoking cigarettes for example, why they decided to quit, they’ll generally say something along the lines of “It was costing too much”, or “Smoking isn’t good for me”, or “I keep getting coughs”, etc.

Unfortunately, it’s these people who after a few days (or even a few hours) go back to their bad habit. They have no leverage on themselves to make the change.

Even if you devise strong, SMART goals, if you don’t find your WHY, you’re likely to give up soon after you start.

By getting clear on your reasons for wanting to make the change, then using those reasons as leverage, you greatly increase your chances for success.

The more leverage you can get before you start, the easier it will be for you to achieve your goal. Let’s give you an analogy to explain why:

Get some leverage
Assume for a moment that you are trying to move a large bolder (your bad habit).

You have bar to help you move the bolder (this is the goal that you’ve set), but you’re just not strong enough to move it. There isn’t enough leverage.

Just then, 10 of your friends come along to give you move leverage (all your reasons WHY) and with them all working at the same time, in the same direction, moving the boulder becomes easy.

Hopefully, you’ve got a better idea now, of why it’s so important to find your WHY.

 

How to find your WHY

To really understand your WHY?, you need to take the time to completely analyse all the benefits you’ll get from achieving your goals and all the negative things that’ll happen if you don’t; and there’ll be plenty of each if you really think about it. 😉

To find your powerful WHY ask yourself these six questions:

  • Why do you want this goal? Why is it important to you?
  • What would it mean to you personally, if you accomplished this goal?-How would you feel?
  • How would you feel if you didn’t accomplish this goal?
  • What sort of person will you need to become to reach this goal?
  • How would your life change if you accomplish this goal?
  • How will this goal impact your family and those you love?

The more things you can think of, the more likely you are to succeed, simply because you’ll have so many reasons to go on. If you have just one reason, it’ll be very easy for your subconscious to find a compelling reason to give up.

If you need any more proof, think back to how many goals and aspirations you’ve had in the past. How many have you achieved and how many reasons for success did you have?

Find your compelling why and you can reach your goals much more easily than you ever imagined!

I’d love to see your thoughts in the comments 🙂

Be brave,

Steve

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My name's Steve, and I'm so glad you ended up here! I formally studied Clinical Hypnotherapy, Psychotherapy, CBT and Psychology, gaining my Ph.D in 2006. My mission, is to provide information, guidance and tools, to help you discover simple self-confidence building techniques that work for you personally. Find out more about me BY CLICKING HERE

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