Why do I Feel like Everyone Secretly Judges Me?

Is it true that everyone secretly judges me?

Do you find yourself asking why everyone secretly judges you, or thinks you’re an idiot, or is constantly waiting for you to mess up?

Don’t worry, you’re definitely not alone. This question is common. And it’s fuelled by low self-esteem and a lack of confidence.

It’s unfortunate and painful, but when you don’t believe in yourself, it’s easy to assume that others don’t either.

That’s because, a low self-esteem can make you hyper-aware of your actions, and you can be easily convinced that everyone is secretly judging everything you do.

 

Some people do secretly dislike you

It’s an unfortunate consequence of human nature, that not everyone will like you.

The thing is, people like people who are like them. And if you’re not like them, they probably won’t like you, at least not as much.

But, what about all the people you see every day, that you don’t know personally? All these other people that you believe secretly dislike you?

The truth is, people are much more focused on their own lives than on scrutinising yours. Most people are so busy worrying about their own problems, insecurities, and to-do list, they don’t have time to dedicate energy into judging you.

It’s a classic case of projection; we project our own fears and self-doubts onto others, thinking their thoughts mirror our insecurities.

 

How do I stop those thoughts then?

Building self-esteem and confidence can be a game-changer.

When we elevate our own sense of worth, the paranoia about being disliked diminishes. Your confidence acts like a shield, pushing away irrational thoughts that others secretly dislike you.

Also, it’s helpful to remember that people are far more forgiving than our inner critic would have us believe. People are generally more understanding and less critical than we imagine.

The next time you catch yourself spiraling into these thoughts, remember that they’re likely more a reflection of your self-esteem than reality.

Focus on boosting your confidence through self-care, positive thoughts, and gaining small wins. Over time, as your self-esteem grows, the feeling that everyone secretly judges you will lose its grip.

Realize that you deserve to occupy space in this world, just like everyone else. Trust that your friends and acquaintances like you and that the other random people are more preoccupied with their own lives than critiquing yours.

More often than not, people appreciate you more than you think.

 

Final thought

Next time you get the feeling that everyone is judging you, take a moment to ask yourself if that’s really true? What would really happen if you just went ahead and did what you wanted to do?

Why not give it a go… just to see. I think you’ll be surprised at the result 😀

Let me know how it goes!